You don’t have to wait until Valentine’s Day to let your husband know how much he means to you.
And I don’t mean just showing him with words, either. Why, our actions should speak the loudest.
Last year, I wrote a post for the Imperfect Wives series on Busy Being Blessed. That post, 5 Ways to Make Him Significant Again turned out to the most popular post on my blog – ever. And up until now, it is the only post I’ve ever written specifically about marriage.
It’s not that I don’t like writing about marriage, but I guess you could say, I really don’t feel qualified to do so. My husband and I have been married nearly 14 years and we’ve learned a thing or two in that period of time. But the biggest lesson we’ve learned is that any success we’ve achieved is thanks to the goodness of God, not any win that we could claim for ourselves.
But back to this significance thing.
It turns out that I’m not the only one who needs to pay close attention to making my husband feel significant. So, in case you’re in the same boat, I offer 5 more tips for making him feel special and loved.
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Put God first
No, I didn’t make a mistake with the heading. I know that this post is about supporting our husbands, but stick with me.
Truly the best way I can encourage my husband is by being the best wife I can be. And that starts with my relationship with God.
This concept is similar to one I read a few years ago in the book The Power of a Praying Wife. The absolute first chapter of the book started not with praying for your husband, but praying for his wife. And that stuck with me.
If we are to be our husbands’ biggest cheerleader, we must work on ourselves – not in a selfish way, but in terms of allowing God to shape us and mold us into the wife he needs.
Support his dreams
You know the old saying, ‘when you get married the two become one’. All too often the reality looks more like each of us vying for our own space in the spotlight. But how different would it be if you decided in your heart to support his dreams?
How many times have you worried about something that never even came to fruition? Frankly speaking, if it’s a really crazy idea, God might have other plans in mind. And that daydream will never amount to anything. But if his bright idea is really from God, then you’d be foolhardy to try to squelch it.
Rather than squashing his dreams, focus on being his biggest fan. And leave the rest to God.
Talk behind his back
In a good way, of course. Compliment him. Tell your girlfriends about how he read bedtime stories to the kids so you could have some downtime. Brag about his mad cooking skills to his friends (and mean it). No snickering. Think about what he’s good at and talk it up with your friends.
The perk here of course, is that it if you brag about him to the right person it can get back to him and that would be a double-perk.
But beyond that, it puts him in a good light in your eyes. And that’s like falling in love all over again.
Meet him half way, and then some
You’ve heard it said that marriage is a two-way street and that is so true. There’s a lot of give and take and the best thing you can do is forget about keeping score. Do your part to meet him half way. In fact, I’d go so far as to say put him first above everyone else including yourself. Romans 12:10
This might be unheard of in our modern culture but putting your husband first and meeting his needs reaps rewards beyond what we can see today.
Water the seeds and starve the weeds
This saying is one that my sister, Carlie says often in relation to parenting. Amazingly, it applies just as well to marriage. It basically suggests that we focus on the good (the seeds) and celebrate those, all while playing down the things we don’t like (the weeds) by giving them less attention.
So, make a big fuss about the things he’s doing well and tell him often how grateful you are. As for the things that you don’t like, well, sometimes it’s better to learn to just let those go.
I’m definitely still working on this one!
So, there you have it folks, five more tips to make him significant again — in your eyes and his.
What about you?
What other tips would you offer? How do you make your husband feel significant? Believe me, I’m taking notes.
Wishing you blessings,
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