Ever had one of those days when you’re down in the dumps and just can’t shake it? Maybe it seems that everything you do isn’t good enough. Your significance tank has been running on empty and all of a sudden no one seems to think you’re important anymore.
Perhaps you’ve been looking forward to spending one on one time with your hubby but he can’t seem to take his eyes off of the big game, leaving you feeling neglected.
It could be that the kids have been busy taking and you’re just too tired of giving.
Or, heavens forbid, there’s simply no good reason to be down – but you still are. There’s no sparkle, no glow, no shine, nothing. Just blah!Â
We’ve all had days like that. Sometimes it goes on for days on end. It’s a vicious cycle. The more we think about how low we feel, the lower we feel. How can we possibly move on? How can we find the encouragement our souls need?
Simply put, we need to pray and PRAY. Wait a second did I just say ‘pray’ twice? You sure bet. It’s so sweet I must repeat. Pray and PRAY! Here’s how:
Pray
This advice is so obvious that sometimes we forget to do it. But prayer works amazing wonders in our lives and certainly on our moods. When we take the focus off of us and share it with a God who is bigger than our problems, our perspective starts to change. 1 Peter 3:12 offers such great encouragement by reminding us that God pays attention to our prayers. Plus James 5:16 tells us that our prayers can be powerful and effective.
Now, here’s the even more powerful part. Are you ready for the real secret to improving your mood? Drum roll please…
P.R.A.Y.
This four-part secret ingredient when combined with prayer will put the zing back in your step. Follow these four simple tips and see what a difference they make. In no time at all you will be back to loving life – with a smile on your face!
1. Pause
Taking a moment to step back from a situation is the first step to mood-lifting relief.
How to do it:
Breathe slowly and deeply. Take a time out from the situation. Step away for a moment. This might mean a break where you physically remove yourself for the moment or it could be that you emotionally switch gears.
Why it works:
The adage of counting to 10 might be old but it still has merit. When we pause and breathe deeply it soothes and relaxes us, putting us in the right frame of mind for the next step.
2. Reflect
Now that you’ve taken a time out this is a good time to reflect.
How to do it:
Reflecting might be different for each person, but in every case it should be about reflecting on something positive. Happy memories, a good joke, an inspirational quote. This is where I like to recall scriptures. This gives me a chance to replace any negative thinking with time-tested truths. Keeping scripture cards on hand helps me to remember God’s faithfulness. I find them so encouraging that I’ve included a set of prayer and scripture cards as a free gift for you. My personal favourite is Romans 8:37 (‘I have complete victory’) which is great for those moments when I feel like I’m failing. (Yes, I have those too.)
Why it works:
When we’re in the middle of a low spell it’s hard to stay positive. Taking a moment to reflect helps us see things differently. It’s especially encouraging to recall biblical characters who overcame difficult situations.  As a result we typically start to see our situation in a whole new light.  And usually we find that things are not as bad as we initially thought.
3. Add beauty
Something amazing happens when we surround ourselves with beauty.
How to do it:
Each person finds beauty in different things, so see which of these works for you:
– Listen to your favourite music
– Take a walk outdoors and get some fresh air
– Make an arrangement of some lovely, fresh flowers
– Get creative. Recently my sister bought me a colouring book for adults. They seem to be the latest craze for managing stress (seems she might be sending me a message).  I find that it’s a great way to wind down and I also love the beautiful images that I get to create in the process!
Why it works:
We were made in the image of our creator who is all about beauty. When we create beauty or surround ourselves with beautiful things our moods get a boost.
4. Yield
We’ve prayed, we’ve paused, reflected, added beauty, we’re good to go, right? Well not quite. We now have to yield. You know, surrender, let go, hand it over. Yes, the things we don’t always like to do.
I recall a Christian ministry leader who pointed out that it’s one thing to have a bad five minutes, it’s yet another thing to live there. Sometimes as women we like to stay in the dumps as if we feel it’s a badge of honour. In my earlier example I mentioned wanting to have some alone time with someone special.  In that case, if he didn’t take his eyes off of the TV long enough for me to finish a sentence – guess what? That doesn’t give me the right to stay in a foul mood for the rest of the night. At some point, I have to let it go (yes I’m talking to myself here!).
How to do it:
Make a conscious decision to let it go: your bad mood, the funk, your low moment. Let it go.  Even if it means literally throwing it out the door. Grab at the air, catch that bad mood, clutch it with both hands and toss it out the door. There! Now, don’t you feel better already?
Why it works:
Surrender is the act of letting go.  The act of handing over control. When we give that control over to God, He takes the reigns and that bad mood loses its power over us. We don’t have to worry about it anymore. We’re free to move on. Free to sparkle! And oh, what sweet relief that is!
So there you have it. Try these four tips the next time you feel yourself sinking deeper and deeper into ‘woe-is-me-land’. I’d love to hear how they worked for you.
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Melanie Redd says
What a practical post, Marva!
This is my cup of tea – simple, useful, positive, and good! Love it!
Sure am blessed by you and your ministry~
Marva | Sun Sparkle Shine says
Thank you so much, Melanie. I really enjoyed putting this together, I guess because it helps me too! I’m so glad that it encourages other women as well.
Wishing you blessings, my friend!
Carmen says
I love the break down! Awesome post! So true about there being a difference between 5 minutes in the dumps to living in it. We have a choice and the best choice when we feel ourselves getting down is praying! Great post!
sunSPARKLEshine says
Thank you, Carmen. I’m so glad you found it useful. My hope is for women to be encouraged to kick those bad moods and attitudes to the curb so that we can truly shine for Christ.
Thanks for stopping by and encouraging me today!
Michelle says
This is beautiful. I love how you broke it down to simple terms and easy to implement. I have to share this at my teacher meeting on Friday. Love this oldie but goodie and appreciate you taking the time to dust it off and link.
sunSPARKLEshine says
That’s great, Michelle! I’d love for you to share it. And I hope your teachers like it as much as you did. 🙂
Blessings, my friend!
Cristina says
Thank you for sharing this over at Blogger Spotlight Link and Pin-it Party! Pinned and hope to see you again! Have an awesome week!
sunSPARKLEshine says
Thanks, Cristina. I loved visiting the #BloggerSpotlight linkup and hope to visit you again this week. Thanks for stopping by!
Marva Small says
I love the P,R.A.Y. acronym will share with my Family Group and Singles and I certainly need it for me
sunSPARKLEshine says
That’s awesome, Marva. I’m so glad you liked it. Wishing you a New Year that sparkles! Blessings.
Rachel Britton says
Hi Marva, you left a comment on my blog post about British Christmas traditions, so I came over to look at your site. I’m excited to see that you know prayer to be important and I love what you’ve written. I’m looking for some partners for my 10 day prayer challenge starting January 18th. If you go to my site, you’ll see some details and if you’re interested, I can send you more information about partnering.
sunSPARKLEshine says
Hi Rachel, thanks for the heads-up about the prayer challenge — I just signed up! I’m looking forward to being a part of this and being amazed by what God will do. Blessings!
Stephanie says
I really appreciate the PRAY acronym and will be putting it into practice. Thankful to stop by today.
sunSPARKLEshine says
That’s awesome that you liked it and can find it useful, Stephanie! So glad you could stop by and visit.
Anastasia says
I love this acronym. So easy to remember when you need it too. Turning on music is such a big mood changer in our home. It is very hard to have a bad attitude when you have godly music playing.
sunSPARKLEshine says
Hi Anastasia, yes, I think its so important to keep things simple. 🙂 Thanks for your tip about godly music. I love that and will definitely give it a try.
Kim says
I love this and need this reminder right now. Thank you. SO glad I popped by.
sunSPARKLEshine says
Ahh, Kim, so glad I could serve you and I’m glad you popped by too. 🙂 Wishing you a day full of sparkle!
Gingi says
Thank you, I needed this RIGHT NOW. My day has been blah and while not depressed, I needed the pick-me-up! – http://www.domesticgeekgirl.com
sunSPARKLEshine says
Gingi, thanks for visiting and leaving some sparkle! I think we all need a pick-me-up now and again and I’m glad this helped you at just the right time!
Jen says
I love your reminder to P.R.A.Y. Taking time to reflect and regroup is so important. Thank you for the reminder. Pinned!
sunSPARKLEshine says
Awesome, Jen. You’re the best! So glad you liked it.
Lori Schumaker says
1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.
sunSPARKLEshine says
Hi Lori, how sweet of you to drop by and share that with us. It’s such a beautiful scripture and a sure ‘spirit-lifter’. I have to remember that one the next time I’m down. 🙂
Fanny says
beautiful post
sunSPARKLEshine says
Thanks so much, Fanny. I hope it added some sparkle to your day!
Ginger Harrington says
Loved this post. I liked the acrostic as well as the “how to do it” and “why it works” sections. It’s been raining all week where I live and this did add a sparkle to my day.
sunSPARKLEshine says
Yay! Ginger, I’m so glad this post brightened your day. I wish I could send you some sunshine too! 🙂 Thanks for stopping by!